Many of these women are smart and they ask questions and don’t just wait to be picked by someone. I wouldn’t be interested in the ones who are just willing to run off with the first guy willing to get them out of the slum.

The most consistent concern they seem to have is philandering. Their biggest fear is that they would marry somebody and in a few years he would ditch them or he would have several others going on the side at the same time. They all have friends who have had this happen to them. Some were foreign men but most were Filipino men. This is sort of behavior actually benefits those of us who aren’t looking to head down that road. But it does require some salesmanship.

It changes color if it’s opened

After several days of only talking to my new girlfriend, I decided to go back to the website to cover up my photos and to make a new heading. I used her name for a very good reason. Some fellows will tell half a dozen girls that they are exclusive and they will change their profile just say so. So half a dozen girls think that they are the person mentioned when he says I’m exclusive boeren match dating with one girl now. So I did this and I took screenshots of it all, because I wanted to convince her that I’ve stopped looking. While I was at the website, I noticed that she had been there a short time before. I questioned her about whether she was still taking messages. In fact she had already covered her photo and erased all other contacts. Then she admitted that she was coming back at least every hour to see if I had been on the website. She had done this every waking hour of every day since we first met. So I showed her the screenshots and this helped a bit with the suspicion.

There were also screenshots of many unopened messages

But she went looking at the profiles of all of these girls, and judged many of them to be more beautiful than herself and to be more suitable for me in other ways. So I explained my process and that at the end of it, I judged her to be the best choice for me. She doesn’t quite fit the look of the Spanish looking women on TV who use skin bleach. The country is a genetic stew of people with Malay, Chinese, Spanish and Austronesian ancestry. To me she’s a beautiful woman, but to her, she looks like a maid, because of a flattish nose, wavy hair and pronounced epicanthic folds in her eyelids. I’m guessing she’s a mixture of mostly Malay with some Austronesian ancestry. I explained to her that native peoples all over the world have had standards of beauty imposed on them, so that people don’t even think their own children are beautiful. I told her that my mind wasn’t poisoned in that way and that I think she’s very beautiful. She’s also smart. She has a bachelor’s degree in IT Communications and she doesn’t buy into the religious nonsense she was raised with. All good as far as I’m concerned. Her original profile picture was taken in bright light with a bright white background, so that it washed out her skin and features. I asked her to take some photos in regular lighting, and told her that they were really nice. After a few weeks, she believes me. She also told me that at 5 feet tall and 95 lb, she is too small. She’s perfectly proportion for a woman that size and it’s not a concern to me. I’m 5 feet 9 and 201 pounds. She thinks that I’m far too handsome for her. I sent her some of my bodybuilding photos, and she really likes them, but wanted to make sure that those weren’t posted for other women to drool over. She asked if I would be able to pick her up, and I said yes, with one hand. This seems to be the one thing that she found very positive. Several times, she has told me that I’m so handsome that I can get a better one. Meaning better than her. I hope we can get past that.